“How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” Oscar Wilde,(1854-1900)

EXACTLY!……….

Delicatessen (1991)…watch it

The film is set in an post-apocalyptic apartment building in France in an unknow time period. The story surrounds the tenants of the apartment building and their desperate bids to survive. A newly arrived tenant arrives to replace a tenant whose reason for departure is initially unclear. The butcher, Clapet, is the leader of the apartment who strives to keep control and balance in the apartment.

When I first watched this film I felt like I personally owed the director. So much time and effort went into producing it ,from the story line to the sound track and the sounds it is all synchronised and choreographed beautifully.

Bansky…love it

This video contains one of my favorite pieces of his work with the  Tesco Flag.

This video contains another of my favorites, the disgruntled painter and the yellow flower that leads on naturally from the yellow lines of the road

Bagdad Cafe…watch it

The movie has sharpe wit, happy times and sad times. . . just like life.

This film is set in  small restaurant/hotel not far from Bagdad, California. The film shows glimpse’s of human humanity, emotion and drama 
and then ends on an uplifting tone which does nothing but warm your heart and put a smile on your face. There are no gimmicks, no cheese, no exaggerated action scenes just a touching story line and an excellant theme tune (if that’s what you call them..lol I’m no movie buff) by  Javetta Steele called ”Calling you” (which incidentally was remixed into a drum and bass version and I have to say it works).

Go With the gutt!

NO MATTER WHAT PROBLEMS OR DECISIONS IN LIFE ALWAYS GO WITH YOUR GUTT…

Example: a girl is planning on moving in with her bf  but does not know weather to sell her apt , she ways up the pro`s and con`s resulting in more pro`s.  Great she thinks Ill sell it, however something deep deep down in her gut tells her not to. More debating with herself follows, she feels frustrated as she keeps going back and forth with her decisions.  She moves in with her boyf and 3 months later finds out he has a healthy appetite for prostitutes. Girl moves back in her apt which she did not sell, at the time when she decided not to sell she did not really have any major reasons not to sell it she had been with the guy for 5 years.  Little did she know the decision was already made. When she was deliberating over what to do, she was actually  trying to understand how/why the decision had been made.

Its Hard….. but keep it lite!

I have realise the key to making a serious (or on the way to being long term) relationship work.  The trick is no matter how emotions take over, good ones and bad (I too get caught up in the feelings of deep cosy love when things are going right) KEEP IT LITE. Being in a relationship is supposed to be an enjoyable situation for all parties concerned. For those who are not serial girlfriends/boyfriends it can take a while to be in a relationship as you neither look for or willing want to be in one.  So no matter who you are you find yourself (what feels like submitting to) in love, times goes on and eventually cracks start to appear.  We are only human after all, people that think it is normal not to argue with your partner are deluded and living in more of a dream world than me. Cracks now blatantly obvious and being a clever girl/guy you are sent into a bit of a  panik (did I miss judge his/her character?, now I cant trust ever , ever again, who is this person I fell in love with?, imagine if we had moved in together/had kids etc) what follows is numerous unnecessary discussions, arguments, frustrations (men and women never understand each other esp when there is pressure to do so). To avoid getting to this point:

• As soon as there is a problem, tell your partner about it (sounds obvious but many people decide to mull it over for a few months/discuss it on facebook/myspace etc/jeremy kyle. 
• If the problem causes you to lose some trust in your partner, be it actual trust or trust in who they are as a person and realistically you know you are not going to end the relationship (although you swear to your friends that’s it he/she is getting on your last nerve) remember what it is you want to/are doing with your life. If there is nothing you want to do or are doing with yourself theres a problem.

 Albert Einstein

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”

• This helps your remember who you are away from the relationship and that the relationship is not the be all and end all.
• You are the star in your life and only you can control what kind of  role your willing to accept.
• As soon as you concentrate back on your self as opposed to “the two of you”, you will find that your relationship naturally sorts its self  out, even if that means it ending.

MORNING SLAP…

Me: “Think positive”

Me: “Nooo think the worst then if that doesn’t happen its a bonus”

Me: “Nooooo the power of thought is bigger than you think, keep thinking negative and negative things will happen”

Me: (SLAP) “Right! Just don’t think about possible outcomes at all, especially things which you have no way of predicting the outcomes of”

Me: Okay